It was January and cold, and I was wearing UGG boots and feeling embarrassed about it. When gaps between human beings take up space in the room, it's nice to have something tangible to blame it on. It gives us something to look at.
I talked to Becky the longest. She was one of the few women at the house that day. She cooed over Moses and I felt my insecurities slacken at the gesture. She held him with all the tenderness of the Virgin Mary and considerately turned her head aside when her smoker's cough attacked, which was often. I wondered if this was crossing some unwritten maternal line of protection, and should I be ashamed of myself for exposing him to this, to all of this? But my postpartum brain couldn't even fully form the hesitations because it was so clear that
this was right.
It's a gift. All of it. You to her and her to you and don't let fear come like a thief...
(He's 14 months now and has never had more than a cold and a lot of built up immunities.)
We fell in love with the Day House. So we went back. And we kept going back. And more quickly than we could have ever hoped it became a piece of us, this house of hospitality, this landing place for the war-torn and the lonely. We found family there; we found acceptance and laughter and folks who would shrug it off when our traumatized son kicked them in the head because they'd seen a hell of a lot more than that. We were loved, and welcomed, and we were taught new things about the world and that what is required for friendship is so much less than we think.
It was people, and people is exactly what we had missed.
In her autobiography The Long Loneliness
We know Him in the breaking of bread, and we know each other in the breaking of bread, and we are not alone any more... We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.
I believe in love because I believe in He Who Is Love.
I believe in community because for love to be real it must go forth from something, towards something.
I believe in the long loneliness because I have lived it and so have you. But that doesn't have to be the end of our story.
I believe in fighting for love, and for community, and for breaking bread together. I believe in doing it when it hurts, when it's hard, and when it's inconvenient.
I believe because I have tasted and have seen, and I refuse to forget.